Monday, September 16, 2013

As of Late

Life in Snicksville has been a roller coaster as of late. It is so nice to be back in Eugene, settling in and getting back into our school routine. And I'm saying that despite it being 90 degrees IN OREGON (we don't have air conditioning). I love sitting down to dinner just the three of us and just living our everyday, boring, simple life. That said, its been a hard couple of weeks.
Sometimes life just plain sucks - I'm so eloquent, I know.
In fact, Nick and I have discussed how incredibly blown away we are by the amount of sucking life has done recently. And I do not have a way with words when it comes to life sucking. I'm a deflector - a sarcastic callus who ignores the bad and jokes while eating my feelings.
Three weeks ago, my dad's brother passed away. I was able to go to Utah for the funeral while Nick stayed home with Ev. It was a quick trip, but I'm so glad I was able to go. Not only to celebrate the life of a truly legendary man, but to see some of my extended family. Funerals are never an enjoyable experience, but I'm so grateful I got to spend time with family that I don't get to see often - the Smarts are amazing people. And I'm not just saying that because we share DNA.
Several days later was the anniversary of Keith's passing.
The next day, a dear family friend passed away after a long battle with breast cancer.
Then, a few days later, our dear friend Ryan Conley passed away in a car accident.
To say our hearts are aching is a huge understatement. Nick and I have felt devastated for those we love going through such horrible trials. Ryan's death has been so hard to bear. We are so sad for Tiffany and her girls and we both miss Ryan.
Since I'm less than a month from my due date, I wasn't able to attend the funeral, but Nick was able to make a quick trip to California to be there and again, I'm so glad he was able to go. I never know what to say in situations of extreme grief, but I know that when I don't know what to say, a prayer always helps. I can't even describe what I'm feeling these days. Incredible grief and sadness for my friends and family, gratitude for the light of the gospel and my sweet family, and confusion as I try to make sense of it all.
We all know that bad things happen, but that doesn't make it any easier when they do.
And I'm not just word vomiting all these terrible things to depress anyone who reads this blog, I just didn't know how to blog about the good things we've experienced lately without acknowledging the difficult as well. Because we have experienced good, even great things recently. Its never all bad, even when it seems that way.
Bottom line,
I'm so thankful that our family is forever.

And I know this picture is old, but I love it. It just felt appropriate to put it in here, especially when we only have a few more weeks to be just the three of us. 


Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear all these sad stories! Hard stuff! Can't wait to see pics of the babe!

Amanda Jeffs said...

That is so hard. I'm so sorry for those families. It definitely makes you appreciate every day we have with our loved ones.

chelsea said...

Well said Syd!

ellen said...

That's a lot of crap in a short amount of time. So sorry. (I was in Portland over the weekend and stopped by to see your awesome sister!)